I don’t know about you but i hate being held to an impossible standard. It happened pretty early on for me. Actually it was 1st grade. I know elementary school is supposed to be a very happy time but I have hardly any fine motor skills so I really struggled. I couldnt color between the lines, couldn’t cut with my scissors, in fact most of the pictures I had to cut out were left with missing limbs. Pretty sad I know. I was a social animal even then, but the worst thing was penmanship. At the English School in Bogota Colombia where I went, they wanted us to learn to write neatly. They wanted us to put a letter in each square on a graph piece of paper when we practiced our alphabet. Shoot! I cant do that now. What a train wreck! What an impossible standard.
It was even worse at church because since I was the pastor’s kid, I lived in a human fish bowl. I think the term “sinless perfection” was coined with pastors kids in mind. Never mind the fact that we were far from that, the expectation to be flawless children was overwhelming.
You know, lots of us feel the same way about church. We feel that if we come to church all our imperfections are place on display for everyone to see. Its an awful sensation to feel like you are naked in front of strangers. The expectations seem overwhelming. Fair or not, many of us feel that way about church.
I think one of the main reasons we feel this way is because we feel that we have to be perfect to come to God. So many people have made rules the way to find acceptance with God that the church has been transformed from being what should be the most accepting place in the world to one where people feel the most judged. Why is that? I think one of the main reasons is that it is really easy to make secondary things primary. Noted scholar Arthur Barclay says – “The spirit that makes Christianity into something bound by regulations is not yet dead by any means.”As a result know church should be accepting but most of us feel that we have to live a certain way to be a part of the in crowd.
I think is so ironic that this is the very reason that Jesus came. To change that playing field. Jesus said, I have come to give you life!” That is a far cry from the world of rule keeping I feel many of us live in on a daily basis. Make no mistake, I don’t think we need to live lives filled with sin, but we need to live free.
So what does that mean? We must bypass our own fears of unmet expectations and choose to have a living dynamic relationship with Jesus. I think it means that we live in a relationship with God by praying and reading his word daily but don’t let it stay there, we must talk to him throughout the day and engage him in the minute and normal parts of our life. In a world that is seeking to drag us away we must Hold on to Jesus! In him we can find true peace, in him we can find someone who doesn’t hold us to an impossible standard but says come as you are. Come the way you are because I love you. The past is the past, you are accepted here.







